"25 things i wish i realized while i was still in highschool"

  1. That zit on your cheek literally does not matter
  2. Skipping class one time will not ruin your entire life
  3. The boy you’re trying so hard to impress will mean nothing to you in a year
  4. Bring coffee to school and ignore people who make fun of it
  5. Bring a snack, too. Don’t care if people hear you eating in class.
  6. Being popular isn’t and will never be something that seriously defines who you are
  7. Appreciate your teachers
  8. Doing/not doing drugs doesn’t make you cooler than anyone else.
  9. Neither does drinking
  10. Talk to the kid sitting alone; even though it may not change your life it could drastically change theirs
  11. Participate in school events
  12. Wear sweatpants everyday
  13. Or wear a dress everyday
  14. Wear whatever makes you comfortable
  15. Nobody will laugh at you if you sit alone at your lunch table for five minutes
  16. Utilize the library
  17. Don’t wait 20 minutes to text someone back just to seem cool
  18. Tell your friends how much you love them
  19. Cherish your free textbooks… seriously
  20. Help confused freshmen, be nice to them. Remember how much you would have appreciated it a couple years ago
  21. Compliment the other girls in the bathroom
  22. That fight you had with your mom really isn’t that big of a deal
  23. It’s okay to cry
  24. Don’t let your desire for a romantic relationship stop you from forming platonic relationships
  25. Remember that life does go on
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"Fall in love with someone that doesn’t make you think love is hard"

solemnasylum:

just think

around this time about a year ago we were asking ourselves what the fox said

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Anonymous:
Hello! How would you explain the reasons we choose abstinence and not to have sex before marriage? I'm having a difficult time explaining it to friends at uni, which makes me realise I'm just going along with it without thinking about it for myself!

scripturesketches:

Hey Anon,

This is a great question for a couple of reasons. It’s good that you want to think for yourself and not just go along with what others are doing (good or bad). And it’s good that you want to base your decisions on reasoned convictions rather than on arbitrary rules.

Even among Christians, people tend to have different motives for choosing to save sex for marriage — so I’ll just tell you what mine were.

Practicality

You’ve probably already heard the scare tactics, so I won’t go into a lot of detail here: Sex can give you STD’s, and sex can get you pregnant.

I wasn’t personally concerned about STD’s, because the girls I dated were as inexperienced as I was. But the possibility of pregnancy — that’s a scare tactic that worked on me.

Like everyone else, I heard in health class that pregnancy can happen when you’re sexually active. But over time I really saw what that can mean to a person’s life:

  • One couple I knew got pregnant and, in their panic, had an abortion. They were both emotionally wrecked by their decision for a long time afterward. 
  • Another girl I knew chose to have her baby and gave it up for adoption. But she and her family were also emotional wrecks. 
  • A different girl had her baby and chose to raise it by herself. But she’s been struggling financially ever since. 
  • And another couple actually got married when they found out they were pregnant. But the dad had to drop out of school to support the family, and they’ve also struggled financially.

I’ve never heard of anyone who had their baby and regretted it. Babies are a blessing no matter what. But all of the people I just mentioned told me that they regretted the timing and wish they had been more careful or waited.

Pregnancy isn’t just an empty scare tactic; it’s a real possibility — even if you think you’re being careful. And it’s smart to avoid that possibility until you’re ready to be a parent.

So when my friends urged me to save sex for marriage, I chose to learn from their experiences.

Relationship

Another big reason I chose to wait until marriage is that I understood what sex is for. Things typically work better for you when you use them as they are designed to be used. And sex is designed for marriage.

Sex is a natural desire, it’s a pleasurable experience and it’s a choice we make as individuals. But that isn’t all sex is.

Sex is also how husbands and wives bond in marriage. It’s powerful. And it’s dangerous when used incorrectly.

Studies have even found that the most sexually satisfied people are those who experience sex in the context of “love and commitment” (aka marriage). And I can tell you as someone who waited, sex is pretty great when you’ve only known it with your spouse. 

I wanted my relationship with my wife to be as unfettered as it could possibly be, so I waited. And I’m glad I did.

Integrity

The last reason I waited for sex should be as profound as it is simple: The Bible tells me to. I can’t honestly call myself a Christian without committing to follow Jesus. He saved me, so He is the Lord of my life.

That means I don’t do what my friends, the media and society tells me I should. And I don’t even do what my will, my desires and my emotions tell me I should. I do what the Bible tells me I should.

The good thing is that the Bible’s instructions aren’t just arbitrary—they’re based on God’s unchanging character. He calls us to be faithful to our spouses, because He is faithful to us.

It’s not about following a rule because it’s a rule. It’s about following Jesus because I trust Him.

All this being said, if you’ve already had sex, all is not lost. Your marriage isn’t doomed, and your relationship with God isn’t shot. Jesus forgives us, and He restores us. But if you could avoid the heartbreak of having to overcome a big mistake, why wouldn’t you?

So those were my reasons for saving sex for marriage: 

  • I wasn’t willing to risk pregnancy before I was ready to be a parent. 
  • I wanted sex to be something special I only share with my wife. 
  • And I wanted to follow the God I trust.

Not everyone understood my choice to wait, and not everyone agreed with my reasons. But most at least respected it. And I didn’t need their approval to make my own choices anyway.

I hope that at least gives you a starting point. Thanks for the question.

Peace, love and Jesus,
-James

alltimejackalow:

You can’t tell me “Seven Things” by Miley Cyrus about Nick Jonas wasn’t the holy grail of shade to your childhood. 16 year old Miley was breaking a guitar hero guitar, having close ups of her fiddling with his diabetes necklace, and scribbling out faces of Nick in photos of her and him all throughout that video. Disney Channel was a wild ride when Niley broke up.

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if “girls aren’t supposed to have body hair” then why do girls have fucking body hair?

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